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A Wrinkle in Time: Using Time to Rescue Yourself and Others.

I just watched the trailer for Disney's upcoming movie, A Wrinkle in Time. Their latest film adaptation of the Madeleine L'Engle classic science fantasy novel. 

I'm not sure how I feel about the movie. SciFi movies hit and miss with me. Although, since it's Disney and I have five children, I'm quite confident I will see it. 

What I am sure about is how I feel about the premise. A Wrinkle in Time is about a little girl who receives three magical gifts that allow her to manipulate time and rescue her father. Now that's a good premise.

When it comes to time, we all have the same problem. We all get the same amount, and it's just never enough. So, the idea of manipulating time to rescue the ones you love is a very a good idea! If only it were possible?

But what if it were possible? What if you could manipulate your time to rescue the ones you love? Would you want that ability? I think you would. 

Well, I'm here to tell you it's possible to create a wrinkle in time. And you don't need three magical gifts. 

You can create your own wrinkle in time using these three simple truths. 

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Mom Fail – 3 Truths every Smart Mom Knows (but can sometimes forget.)

This video appeared in my memory feed yesterday. It’s several years old, but it's one of my favorites. Watch it to the end to see a funny mom fail.

I’ve watched it hundreds of times and it still makes me laugh.

I don’t just chuckle because I find it funny. I laugh because it fills my heart with joy!

I love it because it accurately reflects the values my wife seeks to live out with our family. She doesn't always achieve them. But when she does, it’s a thing of beauty.

Heidi's a smart mom. And if you're reading this, then you are too. Her little mom fail reminds me of three truths every smart mom knows but can sometimes forget. (They apply to dad’s as well.) 

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Do you need more tension between your work and relationships?

I’ve been traveling a lot lately. In a period of about 90 days, I’ve worked in New Jersey, Ohio, Colorado, Indiana, Nebraska, Arizona, and Missouri. Oh and one more place, California, yes, I live in the great state of California and am currently engaged in a coaching relationship with the executive team of a leading technology company. I’m also a Teaching Pastor at my church. So, I guess California makes the list.

In my consulting business, I’m privileged to work with dynamic teams from around the country. I love what I do. “Empowering others to live authentic lives of deep impact” is my personal mission statement. Helping leaders increase their life’s impact is incredibly satisfying, and being satisfied with one’s work is critical.

Steve Jobs once said, “The only way to be genuinely satisfied is to do what you believe is great work. And the only way to do great work is to love what you do. If you haven’t found it yet, keep looking. Don’t settle. As with all matters of the heart, you’ll know when you find it.”

There are a determined few who refuse to surrender their aspirations to do something truly meaningful, but for many, as they grow older, their dreams are peeled away by the realities of life, and they settle. They pick jobs for legitimate reasons at the time, but as life goes on they feel stuck. And they begin to accept that it’s not realistic for them to do something they truly love for a living. Settling in work can affect their relationships in one of two ways: 1) they accept their work as necessary to support their relationships, or 2) they resent their relationships for limiting their options in work. Unfortunately, option 2 is the more common reaction.

Others, through the dogged pursuit of work they love create a career beyond their wildest imagination. They have success, significance, and fulfillment in their vocation. They’re doing great work that makes a difference for others, but their vocational success comes at the expense of their physical, emotional, spiritual and relational health. They don’t experience intimacy with their family and lack friendships outside of work. And although they want to, they aren’t giving back to their community.

As I work with high-impact leaders across the country, it seems many have resigned themselves to choosing one of the two paths. A high-impact career, doing work they love or a healthy personal life filled with meaningful relationships.

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5 Reasons Moms are the Best!

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A recent survey of over 1600 moms revealed that 94% of them struggle with mommy guilt. I get guilt; it’s a complex emotion that occurs when a person feels they’ve violated a personal moral standard. I’ve felt guilt before, quite a bit of it.

But I don’t get mommy guilt. I guess that makes sense since I’m not one. I don’t think there is such a thing as daddy guilt. I love my kids and do my best to take an active role in their lives. But as a dad I can be pretty content when my kids have the things they need, aren’t physically harming each other, and aren’t blocking my view of the game. On the other hand, moms tend to set an unrealistic standard for their parenting that often leaves them feeling like they aren’t doing enough or are doing it all wrong.

Moms, don’t be fooled into thinking your kids came to you perfect and anything bad they do is a reflection of your mothering.

As someone who helps others write Life Plans for their future, I know this mentality can rob moms of their joy and confidence. So, on this Mother’s Day weekend, as I sit at a dance competition surrounded by thousands of Moms who are cheering, serving, and celebrating their children. I thought I’d take a moment to give 5 Reasons Moms are Great.Continue reading

Mr. Heidi Clark

Last night I was named as one of the recipients of the Murrieta Chamber of Commerce’s “40 Under Forty” award, given out to the Valley’s young “Movers & Shakers.” Needless to say, I felt humbled and blessed to receive this award. Being that I turn thirty-eight tomorrow, I feel like I just squeaked in.

I’ve prepared a blog post to express my gratitude and appreciation for this great honor, but I’m not going to post it, at least not today. No, if you’re looking for a cleverly written piece that strikes the perfect balance between humble gratitude and appropriate self-promotion, you’ll have to visit another blog. If you’re looking for my feeble attempt, then please come back tomorrow. 

Instead, today I’m going to post about the most significant title I’ve never received. But I’m open to it. In fact, I’m suggesting it. Are you ready? 

Today I proudly wear the title, Mr. Heidi Clark.

Now before you write this off as just some middle-aged man’s attempt to get some “sugar” from his wife of seventeen years. Let me remind you, we have five kids; I get plenty of sugar. No, I proudly wear the title, Mr. Heidi Clark because she has allowed me to speak and write crap like this in front of thousands for the last seventeen years. And that’s saying something because while I love the spotlight she loves to shine it on others; being pulled into its glow is something she would rather leave to big-headed type A’s like me.Continue reading

Making masks a thing of the past.

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We all wear masks. We take what’s on the inside, put a mask on it, and pretend it’s something else altogether.

I’m great at this, even though I don’t want to be.

Sometimes I wear masks at home, with my kids. Last week was busy and by the weekend I was feeling guilty for the limited time I’d spent with my boys. As I left the house for yet another evening away, I told the kids they would wake up the next morning to a wonderful surprise from their daddy. Because, as you know, cheap toys from the Target $1 bin can totally fill the void left by an absentee father.Continue reading